I settled for a job that didn’t suit me for a long time because I was afraid to take a risk. It is a belief that the things you want and the person you’re trying to become are not worth it.įigure out what you love and chase it until you catch it. It teaches you to hold back and find comfort in what you didn’t want, but was easier to grab. You still have to eat and pay for stuff.)īut I will warn you about being complacent and about letting your fear dictate how much you are willing to sacrifice. Now, I’m not here to tell anyone to quit their day job immediately. They wonder if the dreams they clung to are worth anything because the path forward is difficult. It’s a nice thing to say that makes you feel good, but it doesn’t offer anything beyond that because the minute a kid grows up and realizes they are responsible for their own life, they look at their dreams differently.
Telling them they can do anything is easy. The thing is, telling a kid to shoot for the stars is easy. I am going to sit here in my cubicle, collect a paycheck, and get the free cake in the breakroom from Barbara’s retirement party. Your response would not be: Nothing Mary. The Mary Oliver quote: Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? The School House Rock kids encouraging you to keep trying when math sucked (or learn the subject and the predicate of a sentence, whatever). The cute kitten holding on to a tree branch imploring you to Hang in There. I’m sure you remember the posters on your classroom walls. What if settling is actually more dangerous? Bad stuff might happen if you try, but nothing will change if you don’t.
What if I don’t make it? What if I look ridiculous? What if it isn’t everything I need it to be? I understand the temptation to settle and do what’s safe because the alternative is scary. Settling for the person you are and the things you’re doing when you know you’d be happier if you reached for something else. People definitely find ways of convincing themselves they are happy with the people they’re with rather than continuing the search for a better match.īut I don’t mean settling in terms of a romantic relationship.
Most people think that settling is something you do in a relationship.
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